Are your parents happily married or divorced?

Tuesday, June 28, 2011



As I mentioned before my dad brought lots of old photos and today I would love to share a few vintage shots that make my heart skip a beat!

When I was about 1,5 years old my parents separated and as you can imagine I don't remember a thing. These photos are my only memories of them being together. Don't they look adorable?

To tell you the truth, looking at them now, I feel their marriage was always destined to fail, as they are complete opposites - and not in a way where opposites attract :) Fortunately for all of us, the divorce was really smooth and even sort of peaceful. They both remarried shortly after and are still married to their second spouses. To everybody's surprise, they became one of those few couples who actually has stayed friends, even after all these years. They meet regularly for coffees, family events and talk on the phone about their children and grandkids.

So darlings, let's chat...Are your parents happily married or divorced? Did they remarry? How old were you when they separated? How was that for you? xo

58 comments:

Diana Mieczan said...

Also, my dad had a band and I just adore that 3rd photo!!!

jeanette from everton terrace said...

Yes, my parents have been married for 46 years now. My husband's parents also never divorced (his father has passed). Oddly, all of my closest friends from childhood have parents that are still married as well. You are very lucky your parents stayed so close.

Jenny in Ohio said...

my parents have been married for more than 30 years!

They both actually were married before, my dad for 10 years even, but neither marriage had any kids.

Krysten @ After 'I Do' said...

My parents are happily married although of course they have their fights!

Jen said...

Wow, you did luck out with some great parents who get along and are still friends. My parents? They're still married! Ummm... but not happily. Not sure which is worse... divorced or unhappily married parents!

Happy Tuesday Darling! xo

Diana Mieczan said...

Jenny, 30 years? That is amazing and Jen, Ohh I'm sorry about that.

amy b.s. said...

i am always so impressed with people that can remain friends, or at least civil, once their relationship ends. it's such a hopeful thought.

Tanvi said...

My parents have been happily married for 30 years now. And they are still very cute together ... My Dad tries and matches this shirt with my Mom's clothes daily, to the closest color he can find! I find that adorable

♡ from © tanvii.com

Diana Mieczan said...

Aww..your dad is such a sweetheart, Tanvi!

Sunny & Star said...

Love your photos. I love looking back at pictures from the past.

As for my parents, they are still married. Sometimes I'm not sure how I feel about that.

Nikki said...

My parents are married. 36 years I believe. They've had their ups and downs but my Dad still gooses her when she walks by so I think they're still happy ;)

I have a coworker who has the best divorced relationship ever. I always tell my Husband if we don't make it I want to be like that because I can't imagine not talking to him anymore.

Sophie Delphis said...

My parents were never married, but my mother has remained close friends with the husband she had before. I grew thinking of his daughter as my sister.

Dominique said...

My parents have been UNhappily married for 46 years, and though I often wonder if it is for the best- especially when I am privy to the shouting or sobbing- I can't help but appreciate the fact that they have commited to stick it out no matter what.

Ashley said...

My parents just celebrated their 30th anniversary in Bermuda. They went back to the same hotel they stayed in on their honeymoon. I heard of this awesome book called Love Dare. It's about keeping the love going in your relationship and not sweating the small stuff:)

aj said...

My parents have been married for 26 years now, but I'm not sure it's always been happy. They really struggled when raising kids, and have been so much happier now that we're out of the house (sad, but true!)

Looking at their ups and downs has given my hubs and I a lot to look up to and learn from.

<3
aj Cashmere&Candy

Bride-onicles said...

Love that your dad had a band! My parents are happily married after 35 plus years. Yes they have had their hard times but they have always managed through it. I keep their marriage on a pedestool and hope to one day be just like them!! Great post Diana!!

ilene @ muchloveilly said...

these are some great pics - and so awesome to hear your dad had a band!!

my parents are still together after 28 years. i am very thankful that they are - they are too crazy not to be together. ;)

E. Charlotte said...

My parents have been together happily for 33 years now. It has always given me something to strive for, to find a love like theirs. I'm glad your folks are still friends! And I'm glad the divorce was peaceful! That makes for a happier family and that's what's important. I always thought that it's OK if parents are happy together or happy apart, it's bad if they're unhappily together. So many folks are too scared to divorce, but their unhappy union can be so stressful on a family. Sounds like your family has done well with the changes over the years. :)

Tish said...

oh how sweet that they stay in touch...soul mates come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. :)

Ana Degenaar said...

They are happily married after being together for 48 years they got married last year.

hi-d said...

I LOVE these photos, Diana! What a good looking family. That is so cool that your Dad was in a band as well. I love the 3rd photo of you with them. So sweet.

My parents just celebrated their 48th wedding anniversary and they are totally in love. It's quite sweet...

Hope you have a lovely day!
hi-d

hi-d said...

oops...I meant 2nd photo of the three of you. :)

Kristina said...

lovely pictures of your parents! mine are still married and hopefully still really happy!!

Stephanie said...

Aww, you were such a cute baby!!

My parents are still married, but now that they're both retired they've turned into this stereotypical bickering old couple. ;-) My dad was married before, but his ex-wife and my mom are actually good friends, believe it or not. There must be something about my family having good relationships with exes. My husband is really good friends with a guy I dated in college, he even asked him to be in our wedding!

Melissa Blake said...

I love these photos, diana!! My dad died 8 years ago, but I like to think they'd still be married to this day. They would have been married for 33 years this years!

dyan of nita scot said...

My parents are happily divorced. They divorced when I was 3, neither never remarried and have remained great friends in order to be fantastic parents. They talk on the phone and hang out when they can. I can't imagine if they were still married and am grateful and appreciative of them for their continued friendship making my relationship with both of them great.

Dancing Branflake said...

Divorced. But I have really happy memories of them being together.

Faith J. said...

My parents are happily married, and same with my husband's parents!

RaShelle said...

Great pics! My parents have been happily married for 43 years.

Michelle said...

My parents just recently divorced after 29 years of marriage. Thinking back, there were always times when I wondered why they were even together in the first place. They didn't really fight but there was always s small Cold War going on in the house. I have great memories of us as a family so I hold onto those. I hope they each find their true soulmate and learn to tolerate each other at my nephews' birthday parties. :-)

Diana Mieczan said...

Ashley, that book sounds interesting. I'm going to check it out right now!

Diana Mieczan said...

That is so cool, Stephanie! I love when people can stay friends even after the relationship ends.

Heba said...

my parents were happily married for 30 years but my dad passed away 5 years ago

Diana Mieczan said...

Michelle, I hope that for them too...

Mrs. Parker said...

My parents were both previously married before they married one another. They have been married for 30 years (31 in November) - and I'm so incredibly thankful that they are.
There were definitely hard times when it was rough - but they have stuck it out because of their love, their love for us, and their commitment to staying together. It's been a good example to see my entire life.

Julie said...

Great post lady! My parents are divorced...they were married for 32 years and then they split. Sad face. It's been a long time now and we're all happy again, both are remarried. Hope you're doing great!

Alleen said...

Love the pics... my parents will be married 46 years on July 10th! Wish my story was the same but I've been divorced for almost 6 years now! Still friends, live a few minutes apart and we spend just about every weekend together with the kids activities!!! xoxo

Sara Szatmary said...

My parents are going on 37 years. It's amazing to see and a total inspiration.

HiLLjO™ said...

My parents have been together for 25 years this year, and I must say that seeing them love each other like teenagers gave me the ability to recognize the "threshold of love" my own marital relationship would have to spill over. I found the relationship with him, my new husband, and I knew it because I had an example of love to look at my whole life.

Laura said...

My parents are quite an interesting case. Married for 28 years, not really happily though. Kids changed everything for their relationship and the parenting styles weren't compatible. They separated three years ago, but aren't divorced. I don't think either plans to remarry although one is in a relationship. The other parent knows about it though, and seems to be happy that they are happy. They are still friendly and can do things together such as family dinners, holidays etc. Not sure how that would change if they do remarry, or date more seriously. Only time will tell :)

Though their marriage is not something I aspire to, their friendship and parenting is remarkable and I can only hope to do half as good a job!

made-to-travel.com said...

My parents are divorced and sadly it's still uncomfortable when they are both in a room, but they ARE trying and they are both beautiful people who are doing their best. My dad is happy w/ a live in girlfriend in Vienna my mom never seriously dated after my dad and honestly I hate that I want her to find someone to love her and take care of her the way my dad has found that in his life. Hopefully one day she will.

Kudos to your parents one of my besties divorced parents are really similar...they go brunch every Sunday with both her parents and I'm so so envious of that. But this doesn't take away from the way I feel about them. I love them and was and am very loved by both of them and grateful.

Micaela said...

what a beautiful and honest way to look at your parent's marriage. old family photographs are my fave!!! i love that they've remained friends and were brave enough to not stay together "just for the kids" because i think you are better for it :)


my parents (and actually my husband's too!) have been happily married for 40 + years :) we come from good stock.

fashionhogger said...

Wow, what a great story of your parents. My Dad passed away when I was eight, but I like to think they'd still be together if he were around :)

fashionhogger said...

Wow, what a great story of your parents. My Dad passed away when I was eight, but I like to think they'd still be together if he were around :)

Diana Mieczan said...

Thank you so much for all those honest comments!

Diana Mieczan said...

Alleen, happy 46 years together to your parents!!! That is so incredible and so lovely that you and your ex-husband spend weekends together.

Ashley said...

what an interesting post lovely! my parents have been married for about 26 years and going strong! so glad your were able to stay friends! :)

Eliza Jane said...

My parents never married - my mum doesn't believe in marriage (which is so funny, because I totally do). They've also been separated since I was 5. While my father hasn't had a successful relationship since, my mother has been with my common-law step-father for 17 years. They're absolutely adorable together.

MANDY said...

My parents are divorced and now both married to other people .... they divorced when I was 16,didn't seem to worry me too much then, but now I am older with my own family I think it would be great to have them together.

Diana said...

I love these vintage photos of your family, so sweet. Im glad to hear you had a nice time with your dad on his visit. My parents divorced when I was in high school, they didnt have the best relationship when they were married, but the divorce wasnt pretty either! But now that we're all grown it is much better and they are better too!

shopgirl said...

These family photos are so lovely and your parents look really interesting Diana. I wish I could say mine were happiy divorced but they've been married forever ....might I say unhappily for a long time. They're die hard Catholics and to them, getting divorced is not an option - I think it means they don't get to go to heaven or something. :-)) Just joking.

Thanks for sharing these. Glad your parents are friends - that's very sweet.
big hug and kisses!

marissa at the boot said...

my parents got divorced when i was 9. it was very amicable though and they still keep in contact with each other. and they always came to my ballet/school performances together, plus we always had portions of holidays together - they wanted to do those things for me - which i appreciated then and now!

Caroline of Salsa Pie said...

Diana,
What an incredible story. It's so great that your parents have such a cool relationship today. My parents have been married for 37 years. They are super cute together and opposites in the way that opposites attract. :) Also, I really enjoyed all these beautiful pictures. They are gorgeous. :)
xo

Diana Mieczan said...

Eliza, that is so sweet about your mum and her partner:)

Diana Mieczan said...

You all are fantastic..I love all those comments:)

Marie said...

These photos are so cute...
My parents have been married for 32 years and I hope I can have a similar marriage, yes they drive each other crazy at times but they also adore each other (and they laugh a lot together :)

Poppies and Sunshine said...

I love Tanvi's comment. That is soo cute.
My parents have been married for over 30 years. How bad is that that I can't remember exactly how many. But, in any case, they are happy, which is encouraging that marriage can stay happy even after so many years.
Loved looking through all these comments!

Krystal said...

divorced over here too...reading through everyone's answers is really interesting!!! so cool that your parents can stay friends :)

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